The top 4 Reasons
Relationships Fail
A committed loving relationship
is one of life’s greatest joys and accomplishments. Loving relationships can be
a foundation of a meaningful life, and our anchor amid life’s difficulties and
uncertainties. Yet 40% of marriages end in divorce, and breakups are even more
frequent among unmarried couples
What are we doing
wrong?
The truth is that
relationships don’t just take care of themselves they require commitment, self
awareness, and willingness to change and grow. We have to learn to shift from
“me” to “we” as the central focus of our lives. Committed relationships can
survive ups and downs, but some patterns and behaviours can create more
permanent damage
Infidelity
Trust is the soil in which
healthy relationships are grounded and the foundation for their growth. Women,
in particular, are disturbed when their partners have a close ongoing emotional
connection with another woman infidelity can act as a trauma to the betrayed
partner, causing them to feel insecure and angry, and to be obsessed about what
their partner is doing. The partner who cheated needs to take responsibility
for the impact of their actions, make amends, be affectionate and reassuring
and willing to be open and transparent about all their activities going
forward.
Selfishness, Narcissism and
un-balanced Ties
Selfishness is focusing on your
own needs and not thinking about the other person when you make important
decisions or in a day to day interactions. If you don’t do your fair share of
housework or childcare, your partner will begin to build resentment and feel
uncared for.
Narcissism is a personality
disorder that encompass many features, including superficial charm, lack of
empathy for others, and manipulating others for one’s needs
When relationships are
unbalanced, so that one partner’s extended family is always the priority, or
one partner always decide how you spend the money, this fractures the ties that
hold you together.
Not Making the Relationship a
Priority
Not making your relationship a
priority wears it down over time. Our educational system doesn’t teach us that
loving relationships take work and daily commitment. It’s easy for the
relationship to take a back seat when kids come along. If you don’t have time
for sexual intimacy, desires goes down. If you stop talking to your partner
about your hopes and dreams, you start becoming more distant. If you don’t make
time to do fun activities together and with the family, you can begin to lead
separate lives.
Angry Outbursts and Rage
Arguments that get
resolved, and controlled expression of anger, are normal parts of a healthy
relationship. But enraged screaming at your partner can do damage both to them
and the relationship. Couples in unhappy relationship can get into negative circle
where any fight rapidly escalate into accusations and negative comment about
the other person’s intent or character.
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